Mother's Day

 Quick! I want to thank all the moms of children with autism or any neurodiversity.  I also wanna thank moms with autism and/or any other neurodiversity.  Being a mom is hard enough.  I admire you for your strengths and courage to advocate for your child on some level.

Motherhood is a hard concept for some.  Some have no mothers.  Some have no relationship at all with their moms.  We all can have motherly figures in our lives.  It can be a grandma, boss/manager, aunt, friend, neighbor, etc.  The term "mother" means a woman who raised you.  

Motherhood is important in the disabilities community.  Most of the time, these woman are considered as caretakers and they can provide any level of support.  I don't know where I would be without my mom in my life.  I'm not the perfect child, so I have had many misunderstandings, arguments, clashes, disagreements, fights with my mom.  Some of which I am not proud of. 

I'm not a mom, but I know that from raising a child with a disability of any kind, can be hard.  There's a whole grief cycle that goes with it.  Sometimes, a parent can be okay with their child being special.  I've met some parents who mourn their child not being able to do certain things.  They feel like they're distraught, hopeless, and unable to give them the life they wanted them to have.  

Motherhood isn't easy.  If you are autistic and/or have another neurodiverse condition, I commend you.  You are brave.  Know that you are capable of so much and you should feel incredible to have been able to bear a child. 

Happy Mother's Day to all! May your day be filled with love and relaxation! <3

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